Internal Family Systems (IFS)
For people who are ready to recognize and integrate different parts of themselves.
Internal Family Systems is an evidence-based psychotherapy model recognizing the mind as containing different inner parts. Through compassionate awareness these parts can reorganize into greater harmony, strengthening inner leadership and integration.
Each part developed in response to something real, usually at a point when protecting you mattered more than being accurate, and each continues to operate on the information it had then.
The critic, the perfectionist, the one that goes quiet and disappears... none of them are the problem, and none of them respond well to being overridden. What they respond to is being heard. As parts are met rather than managed, they relax the roles they took on, and the internal conflict that felt like being at war with yourself begins to resolve into something closer to cooperation, with the main goal ultimately being integration.
Pixar illustrated this perfectly.
The characters running the console aren't Riley's moods — they're parts of her, each convinced it's doing the most important job in the room. That's parts work.
Who This Is For
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You've read the books, you've done the therapy, you can explain exactly why you do what you do, and you still do it.
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Part of you wants one thing and part of you wants the opposite, and you're exhausted from refereeing the argument.
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You react in ways that don't match who you know yourself to be, and then spend the rest of the day preoccupied about it.
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You've tried to silence the anxious part, the numbing part, the angry part. It always comes back louder.
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You've noticed you become a different person in certain rooms, with certain people.
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You're tired of managing yourself. You want to be at home in yourself.
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You don't want to be fixed. You want to understand yourself.
Free Consultation
Choosing a counselor is personal, and no website can tell you whether we'll work well together. A consultation gives you a low-stakes way to find out. We'll spend about 30 minutes talking through what's bringing you to counseling, what you've tried before, and what you're hoping will feel different. I'll share how I work and answer anything you'd like to ask. If I'm not the right fit, I'll do my best to point you toward someone who is.